I’ve been very focused on all the happies, on Christmas shopping and amazing giveaways and celebrating the new adventures I’m embarking on and the relationships I have found and the gorgeous events I have attended. What I haven’t talked about is the reality of my mom life swirling around all of that, so I thought it might be time for a reality check in. Outside of the sudden entrepreneur in me, I am also the mom of a toddler who hates sleep and food and seemingly everything else at the moment.
What the heck is up with toddlers?! For real! One minute I have the most precious smart sassy adorable loving charming singing dancing toddler and the next…
Did you know she can whine, cry, scream, throw things, say no to everything, tell you to “just stay here” so she can go do that thing you have told her not to do 50 times in the last 5 minutes, from 4:45 in the morning straight through to 7:30 at night?
The pure WILL on this child is terrifying. Part of me is thrilled that she is such a powerful little person in her own right; that she knows what she wants and wants to do more things for herself and that she believes with all her brave little toddler heart that she can do anything. I love that! I think it’s amazing that she teaches herself to do dozens of new things daily, but there are limits – like trying to climb my wall mounted bookshelves. And the running into crowds without waiting for us; I need to get one of those kiddy harnesses!! She is just going to vanish one day.
Wednesday night we went to the new food truck market at Kenilworth Racetrack and I literally wanted to sit down and just let her run off into the crowd; because it was Wednesday, our alone day, and she refused to walk, sit, go in her pram, go in any direction you wanted to, eat, drink or listen to any question or instruction. I was at my end and eventually just told B we had to leave and put her to bed before I joined her lying screaming like a toddler on the ground.
I keep asking myself if this is normal behaviour and then somebody will post on social media or their blogs or a friend will message me and say “WTF is UP with this child? I may just leave him/her in the house and go for a walk” or “Give me all the wine” at 9am; and as awful as it sounds, I breathe a little easier. That means this IS normal and my child is not a little gremlin secretly eating after midnight.
Knowing its “normal” toddler behaviour helps to a degree, but only to a degree… It doesn’t much help with my patience or trying not to shout right back at her. Old school crying tantrums are kind of manageable, because I have the cuddle into submission thing down and I can hold her and love her and support her through it. But this blatant defiance, angry scowling, explosive anger, overt ignoring of what I say thing, that I just don’t know how to do!
I must say I am hugely relieved we aren’t heading off anywhere over the holidays, the idea of being stuck with her in a car for more than half an hour is truly terrifying. And, even though Christmas and loads of family time is my favourite thing EVER, I’m a little nervous of what that is going to look like with my little whirlwind. (If you are going to be stuck with a potentially bored toddler for any length of time, it is worth heading over here and entering to win a free Zipup busy bag).
Any tips from the more experienced moms on how to manage this “trying” time with Charly? Otherwise, send all the wine (says the non-drinker)!
Sending all the love xx
P.S. For something lighter, go read about ALL the amazing book things on this week’s Christmas list!!