As the entire Interwebs knows, it was my baby’s second birthday last month!! How even?! Last year I shared Charly’s first birthday party post after the first birthday post, so I decided to split these up too with her birthday post first and the Mickey Mouse Clubhouse party post next. I did not expect it to take me over a month to do it, though!
Hi lovelies! Sorry for disappearing on you! I still have SO much to write and share with you all, but this past two weeks has been a little bit crazy. So, where did I go? Not too far sadly – man, I could REALLY use a holiday! This is where we are at right now…
Happy second birthday Charlotte Rose! Charly is 2. You read that right. How did this even happen? Sometimes I look at Brett and I, and I wonder how she survived this far. We still occasionally do a family firstbump after a successful nappy change. But you know what? We must be doing something right, because our beautiful Charlotte Rose is exceptional in every way.
Saying I finally feel like a mommy might sound bizarre considering my daughter is two this week, but only in the past few weeks have I really begun to feel like what I have always pictured being a mother to be.
I know, I know, focus on the good things; and I do with Charly because watching how she learns and absorbs things and grows and changes every single day is astounding to me. But. There are definite without-a-doubt terrible twos happenings going down here.
How did it go? Thank you to each and every one of you who asked that question over this past week – there have been more of you than I could possibly thank individually. Charly starting nursery school was a very big and very scary thing in our world, even though it is only 3 days a week for the morning, and the support and love from you all was amazing. And I am so glad that my sharing helped you feel less alone.
Since last week, mommies all over South Africa have watched their babies head off to their first day of school, with tears in our throats and big smiles plastered on our faces. I think the tears are there whether it is the first day of playschool, nursery school, preschool, pre-primary, primary school, high school or university – no matter what their age, they are our babies and a first day of school is another siren making sure we realise, as if watching them alone wasn’t enough, that they are growing up, moving away from us, becoming more of themselves.
With 2015 officially firmly in the rearview mirror, and 2016 already 6 days in; I thought I should do a little roundup of where we were and where we are heading. My focus for 2016 is on growth in all areas, but first let’s have a look at all that 2015 had to offer and give it the send off it deserves.
You know how I work super hard? And how I am always working on 30 things at once? Well, I stopped. I had no choice when my mom fell ill and I had no back up with Charly and Christmas came charging at us out of nowhere – seriously, did anybody else feel it flew at us and past us in an instant this year? I wrapped up client work in a daze of panic over my mom, I shut down this space because my capacity was at zero, I handed the reigns to SA Sisterhood over to Laverne and I went into autopilot for Tums 2 Tots. I lost all momentum; I slowed and I stalled.
While the week before last was hard, it did nothing to prepare me for the past week. As most of you know, I was feeling particularly stressed about work; and with Monday being the 30th, I was preparing for a brutal week of wrapping up month end across all the businesses and then preparing for December and year end. Not to mention starting prep for January and in Tums 2 Tots case, February, the rebrand, the launch event, and so on and so forth. And then life happened.
The week that was, was really really hard. Charly has started doing this awful hysterical crying thing when she wakes from her naps that scare me half to death; work just seemed to pile higher and higher no matter how much I worked, bills are competing with that work pile, and I am facing Christmas time in need of a break but unlikely to have one. In fact, with my mom not around, I kind of have the opposite of a break to look forward to. It isn’t like me to feel so despondent, but even working at home, I’ve still hit that not-quite-end-of-year slump.
I’ve been very focused on all the happies, on Christmas shopping and amazing giveaways and celebrating the new adventures I’m embarking on and the relationships I have found and the gorgeous events I have attended. What I haven’t talked about is the reality of my mom life swirling around all of that, so I thought it might be time for a reality check in. Outside of the sudden entrepreneur in me, I am also the mom of a toddler who hates sleep and food and seemingly everything else at the moment.
When it comes to Christmas, I was born to be a mom. I am ALL about the magic and excitement and the decorating and finding the perfect gift for my toddler. My Christmas list for Charly is literally endless, I add to it every day; every time I see anything that I think she might love, I tend to buy it. I’m the worst, I know, and this is why I am always broke; but I cannot resist seeing her light up over a gift. Deciding what to put on this particular list for all of you was SO hard, I hate leaving things out! These are some of my very favourites though, so here we go… All I want for Christmas is the perfect gift for my toddler!
I did zero research on how to go about weaning my toddler; I went purely from my gut, my mommy instinct if you will, and it backfired a bit here and there. Although my weaning journey is only just beginning, I have some advice that you can use (or not) from my own experience of the past few weeks. So here are my 10 tips for weaning your toddler.
The past three weeks have been incredibly challenging, but I can officially say that Charlotte is day weaned. Yes, just day weaned. That may not seem like much to some, but it has felt like a huge thing for us in our little world. The tears and triumphs of weaning my toddler have been extreme; with the most heart wrenching crying from both of us and wins that have left me both proud and with new challenges to face.