Pregnant Woman

Five Things You Should Never Say To A Pregnant Woman

As promised, a post on things you should never EVER say to a pregnant woman. As you may have gathered, these things have either been said to me or to someone I know in the recent past and with a lot of restraint I have managed to refrain from direct physical attack… thus far. So many people are just completely self-involved and don’t think before they speak; at least I choose to believe that this is the case, because if they do know what they are saying I might well end up having Charly in prison; so I will write this post in the hopes that you will all share it with everyone you know who will share it with everyone they know and less people might end up on the hit list of pregnant women everywhere. [Read more…]

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Pampers, Parties & Pictures

I pampered myself a lot the week before last. Starting with the lovely Venetia Isaacs who runs a professional mobile therapy service who came to do my eyebrows & eyelashes; I then had the amazing Nelia de Andrade (also a mobile beauty therapist) come and do a mani-pedi, using bright Watermelon nailpolish that I am now totally obsessed with! I also met with Stephanie Leonard who did my hair & makeup for the maternity shoot on Sunday. All these amazing women who are running their own successful businesses are so inspiring! Nothing is quite as appealing to me, as a pregnant woman, as people coming to my house and making me feel beautiful for a little while! [Read more…]

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Dudes to Dads Event

This one goes out to the daddies and daddies-to-be! As mentioned in yesterday’s post, I discovered what looks to be an awesome event for dads at my last antenatal class and as promised, see above the flyer for the next event happening in Town on 11 December. [Read more…]

The Pillow Nest

Pillow Nests, Postnatal Distress & Dudes to Dads

Pregnancy is exhausting. As I enter the third trimester, Charly has grown big enough that she is occupying the majority of my insides, meaning all my organs are permanently squished up at the top. This in turn means that my stomach is squished – so I always feel over-full even though I am starving (leaving me feeling constantly unsatisfied); I feel nauseous most of the time; my reflux (which has been horrifying since the day I fell pregnant) is now pretty much non-stop and no amount of Gaviscon, changing what I eat or changing my position makes any difference at all; and I feel out of breath even sitting still as my diaphragm and lungs are unceremoniously shoved into a corner. [Read more…]

Breastfeeding 101 – some fears allayed

As mentioned in yesterday’s post, a few key points stuck with me after antenatal class on Tuesday evening with regards to breastfeeding. I have had more friends who did not manage to breastfeed successfully for a variety of reasons than those that did manage it, and so I have witnessed the heartache and unjustified sense of failure that not being able to has brought. [Read more…]

Charly in 4D

Wonder, Learning & Decision-Making

I am blown away by technology on so many levels and the 4D scan yesterday was no exception – what an amazing experience! Some of you will have seen the video I posted, which is the perfect example of how 4D scans work. When it begins, the shadows make the image quite terrifying, but after a few seconds it shifts and you can clearly see her face emerge. How unbelievable is that? [Read more…]

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Downs, Ups & Antenatal Classes

As mentioned on social media, the past couple of weeks has been rough. A combination of our little girl growing like crazy and the stress that is putting on my body, with the Summer heat kicking in and insomnia mixed with heartburn and nausea, is taking its toll. I am also having to face some people from my past that I would rather avoid, just thinking about it is enough to get my pulse racing and my head pounding – but needs must. [Read more…]

The “Babymoon”

My husband tried desperately – and unsuccessfully – to convince me that a “babymoon” was not a real thing. Of course, I had read about it years ago and they do such things in the movies, of which I am an avid fan, so he was destined to fail. Having done it, I am even more convinced that it is something that every couple needs to do before they are joined by their little person – especially if it is your first. [Read more…]

How they get from “in here” to “out there”…

Why is it that every person – male, female, married, divorced, single, old, young, family member or absolute stranger, parent or otherwise – has an opinion on how you should give birth? Personally, I think it is the one thing that nobody other than the person who has to get the baby out from inside of their body after an already uncomfortable, traumatic and occasionally painful 40 weeks should have any opinion on whatsoever. [Read more…]

Warmth, Love & Gratitude

Some days I really struggle to write posts, particularly when they are personal and open up feelings that are difficult to express like I did in my post of Friday night. But the response has been amazing and reminds me why I am doing this – thank you all so much for your warmth, love, support and for sharing your own stories; I am so glad that I could help and make you feel less alone, as you have done for me too. [Read more…]

Absolute Fear

Warning – topic is bleeding in pregnancy which some might consider TMI; but if you are an expectant mommy, or daddy that might need to calm an expectant mommy, it might be worth the read. [Read more…]

Enormous Growth – Both Physical & Emotional

I wanted Pregnant in Cape Town to be all things to all pregnant women in Cape Town. A place to share in pregnancy experiences, to participate in a growing community and to be able to find everything they need locally during their pregnancy. Unfortunately it hasn’t worked out that way. As an overachiever, I overreached. I couldn’t be happy with just a blog, I wanted it to be everything to everyone. [Read more…]

Heads Up to the Smokers

Everyone who knows me knows that I was THE smoker of all smokers and up to the day that I found out I was pregnant, I would stand downwind just to get a breath of second-hand smoke and I hugged you extra hard if you still had the smell of smoke on your clothes; that smell is actually evidence of third-hand smoke or smoke residue as it is sometimes called. [Read more…]

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Feelings of Overwhelm & Anxiety

It is hard to put into words how I am feeling this week. My hormones are all over the place, with my emotions following close behind. I am feeling just wrong, breathless and dizzy, a feeling of vertigo comes and goes. I have somewhat less than no patience with anyone or anything and I spend a lot of time trying to decide between pulling the blankets over my head and throwing things at someone else’s head (maybe not so over throwing pots after all). [Read more…]